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It has been 4 months since my surgery, to the glory of God I must confess that I am strong and have resumed all activities. I started going on a jog. My periods are also regular, every 26 days. However I still experience light , tiny winny pain during my periods, and some days it gets really bad, but nothing that pain killers cant help with. I still cannot lie faced up, or get up facing upwards. And I still see clots when my periods come, however they are like strands, and very few tiny lumps, which my friend Mina says its normal, she is 10 months post surgery. So I guess it is normal. My scar has healed nicely, some days it itches me so bad i feel like opening up the stitch to get a good scratch, because it feels as if the itch comes from the inside, when I itch the outside, its not that effective, feels like I am itching the wrong place. I read an article that said you can start TTC after 3 months, a professor said it was safe and Ok, as during your first 3 months your wound sho...

I and my husband have started TTC. who knew that this could be stressful. then all the questions start, if there is a problem, did i take too long in my selfishness enjoying my booboo, before thinking of having a baby, why is it difficult after all the pre natal drugs to prepare my body, now its annoying and frustrating. When I say to myself, I am done, wil allow it come naturally, after my periods, I find myself checking for my fertile window and starting all over. Does one ever get so pissed to give up entirely? My answer will be in the negative. I downloaded this app called glow, trust me very good app, tells you when you ovulating, the right time when your chances are highest and then it has a community in which you can interact with others. My dearest Friend Mina did something that gave me a food for thought. She fasted with prayer for 43days trusting God for her own miracle baby, after reading Supernatural child birth by Jackie Meiz. I must recommend this book. They have got it...

FORGIVENESS. How does this work?? Ok, this is how the story goes. Mimi is my dearest friend, she was hurt by her boyfriend. A couple of years ago, her boyfriend had an affair with another lady, and my friend did find out later about it. They did confront each other about it, and then after all said and done, she forgave him and they got back together, and are married and have twin boys. However Mimi says that from time to time when events or talks which come up about the affair, it still hurts and she wants to know if she has actually forgiven him. After 6 years it still hurts. I don’t know what to say to her, I am not sure why it hurts after 6 years. I then wonder if she has not forgiven him, how will they be married, be in love, and have kids if she has not forgiven him? I see them play, laugh, go to church, pray and are in love and together (to what my eyes see)  but how can a hurt of 6 years still hurt? WHATS HAPPENING TO HER? HAS SHE TRULY FORGIV...

I started taking folic acid about 3 weeks ago, excited about it, and feeling very prepared for my journey; all of a sudden I started having pimples very tiny ones like rash on my forehead .  I started using my Italian towel, but to no avail.  It still kept coming up fresh every day and multiplying. I had to sit back and think about what new stuff I have introduced to my system. I then pinned it down to the folic acid. I browsed about it, and I found out that most people complained that they did have acne from taking the folic acid. It has been 3 days since I stopped taking it, and I can see the pimples is suppressing on its own. My husband explained to me that the dosage maybe very high. My dearest friend Mina, did suggest that I take pregnacare in prepration, for conception, as it also has all the nutrients I need from conception, and pregnancy.  So I think that I will start that by the end of the month. A pharmacist did explain to me that in pregnacare the amou...

Hello lovely people. This is an update on how I am doing post 5 weeks of surgery. I had an appointment with my doctor on Monday, and all is well with me. I had my period which was a week late. It was quite heavy and I did see very tiny strands of clots, accompanied with pains in my tummy, vagina and back, so much that I had to call my doctor, who told me that it was normal, as I am still healing. He said he usually places women on some kind of drug which makes them feel menopausal and quite uncomfortable so he did not place me on it. He however said that my next period would be lighter with no pain, so I look forward to it later in the month. After my period, I took a 15 minutes walk ( did not time the walk) around the neighbourhood, when I came back I noticed that I was bleeding, but it ceased at night time. The doctor explained that I had not fully healed internally. I do hope to resume work next week, but will not stay long hours, until after the end of the month or 2 w...

Every woman needs to be a praying woman. I have found solace in seeking first the kingdom of God; it has helped my marriage a lot. I usually post prayer into my future and tell God to please help me out when I get to that bridge, because I know in that stage I maybe too weak to pray. When my husband and I were courting, I had to leave to go abroad to study, and I only came home during the summer breaks, and even then I had to share him with my family and friends.  From the day we became friends, I remember bringing him into my family alter and introducing him to God and from that day, we never ceased praying together every mornings and evenings. We had this book which we wrote our prayer request for us and for our future, I always took it with me abroad and prayed both of our pages long request every Monday for 3 years until my degree was over. I see those prayers working for me in my home; we have so much peace, love, openness, and understanding. I remember praying ever...

Rule 101 of every home should be “tidy as you mess up” just, as my mum always says. As I have gained my independence I have come to understood why momma went on and on about this. Her most popular saying is “I hope my kitchen is sparkling? You can only achieve a spotless kitchen if you tidy as you cook.” When you tidy as you make the mess, it saves you the whole stress of cleaning a whole messy kitchen for about 30 minutes or an hour deepening on how big the mess is. In the kitchen as you make a cuppa, wipe down surfaces, keep back ingredients in the right places, and wash out cup and spoon after you done with your cuppa, no point keeping it on the kitchen counter or in the sink, because it will only keep piled up. (Looking at the piled up mess will discouraged you to clean) Washing up as you cook has also proven to help me also save electricity cost of using my dishwasher, and also giving me a clean house, and kitchen. When I am making dinner, let’s say making a pot of soup, ...

Post myomectomy operation, I will advice that you stick to the doctor’s advice, do all he tells you even if your body feels otherwise. I spent 3 days in the hospital and when I came home, having OCD, I unpacked my bags myself, and put things away. I also took very short walks, from the house to the gate, as the doctor told me to exercise my calf muscles. On my day 2 at home, I made lunch, and also swept my house from kitchen to bathroom, lounge and bedroom, as I was bored, and also because I feel no one can clean to my taste. I did not feel any pain, and I could bend, although I could not stand up right. A week later, I removed the stitches, and then the pay back began. First of all it was so painful taking off the plaster as my pubic hair had grown a bit. (Rub a lot of baby oil on all sides of the plaster before you go to have it removed) when the thread was taken off, it was as if the pain had been released. I could not walk upright again; I was in so much pain, had swellings ...

I was 26 years old when I found out that I had fibroids. I am African American. I have had heavy periods with clots for 3years but when I went to my GP, the nurse dismissed it as anemia and probably my change in diet. In 2012 after uni, I decided to have the contraceptive implant under my arm so I could focus on my education to become a lawyer. Whilst I was in law school, I did not have a period for 6 months, but on the 7 th month I had a very heavy clot so much that it weighed down my knickers, as big as an orange that came out, I was scared and ran to d GP and he thought I was having a miscarriage, and I thought that the contraceptive had failed me. But after a pregnancy test I was not, and then the doctor spoke to me about Fibroids, which I dismissed because all the people I knew that had Myomectomy where in their late or early 40s so I dismissed it. In November 2013 after I was called to the bar (became a solicitor and advocate) I had taken out the implant in October bec...