FORGIVENESS

FORGIVENESS.

How does this work??

Ok, this is how the story goes. Mimi is my dearest friend, she was hurt by her boyfriend. A couple of years ago, her boyfriend had an affair with another lady, and my friend did find out later about it.


They did confront each other about it, and then after all said and done, she forgave him and they got back together, and are married and have twin boys.
However Mimi says that from time to time when events or talks which come up about the affair, it still hurts and she wants to know if she has actually forgiven him. After 6 years it still hurts.


I don’t know what to say to her, I am not sure why it hurts after 6 years. I then wonder if she has not forgiven him, how will they be married, be in love, and have kids if she has not forgiven him?

I see them play, laugh, go to church, pray and are in love and together (to what my eyes see)  but how can a hurt of 6 years still hurt?

WHATS HAPPENING TO HER? HAS SHE TRULY FORGIVEN? 


Comments

  1. Unknown12 September 2014 at 05:30

    Lovely blog, and this post is quite interesting. Just to shed a little perspective upon the matter: although she may have forgiven him, nothing is as hurtful than believing companionship, commitment, & honesty were present & all was diminished with one blow. Dishonesty & infidelity are hard matters to grow from, but evidently if she chose to remain with him, she did ultimately forgive him. It's like a wound that scarred over-it hurt once, it healed over time, the scar, when she reflects doesn't mean the memory isn't saddening.

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  2. Ify Anerobi12 September 2014 at 13:27

    This is so true. Memory is sure saddening, but I guess over time the hurt will fade away. Hanks Cherrelle. Thank you for reading and commenting

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