Coronavirus lessons.

Hi guys. Greetings in Jesus name.

How is everyone doing in this Pandemic Era? I pray that God keeps us safe and our loved one.

So far this lock down. We have gotten to know sides of each other that was swept under the carpet. I have also got to know that there are certain areas of ones life that is brought out when certain things happen. So I can confidently say I dont know my spouse that much neither do I know myself as i think i do.

A typical example is this. I have a live in nanny that stays with me. So before the pandemic broke out she went back home because she lost her sister. And eventual got trapped at home because of the lock down. She has been away for over 10 weeks.

Now the big issue is now the kitchen cleaning, house chores, and cooking, and looking after our child who is a huge hand full 24 hours 7.
I was happy that my big daughter (live-in) was away because I could now finally get to clean my house and move stuff around and get to be in her shoes. I have an OCD for clean and well organised areas, but my boo. Nahh. He really does not care.

I spend the whole morning deep cleansing and reorganizing and that just gives me peace and calmness. Only for this boo to come back from his essential service work and mess my house up. I would swallow that part, looking that he just got back from work and is also in his work clothes fixing lunch or whatever he wants us all to eat. Then boom I enter my kitchen. And its literally boom. What happened to the clean space I had here.

I could not hold it any more. I flared up.

I then noticed that's this edges I feel or we both feels always comes up when every time my live in goes back home.
As i have to fill in her space and my space in addition to being my daughters hand bag, nurse, tutor, pretend play partner and the endless list. While boo has to go to work. In addition, he makes dinner or lunch and then has time to nap before we go out on our exercise.
Like seriously. I don't have that luxury to close my eyes for 10 mins while I am home. I now have new titles, from teacher to cartoon play character, gist partner, cartoon time partner, cook. Walk partner, and unlimited list. In addition to me working from home and having my own space. Like common.

I had to take out time to speak to him regarding not just doing the cooking. But helping out. So he understood and started getting bath water ready, making breakfast for our child and keeping in the microwave and if she is awake before he hits the hospital he gives her a bath. This is awesome as I get to mop in peace without those tiny legs getting my whole floor dirty.

The lock down has made us know where to help each other. And has also taught mr to have back up nanny plans just in case one fails me. Because as a woman your work is unending especially at this current times

Finding a balance.....

Stay safe.

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