1 child or two children?

My daughter will be 4 years old towards the end of the year. She's the only child we have, and we adore her so much. When I think of giving her the best that I can afford, I feel like with my present state of income I can accommodate just one baby. Also when I think of school tuition cost, extra curricular activities, feeding, clothing, holiday cost for both of us and our daughter, its huge....Then talk more of having another baby. The question on everyone lips is oh when are you having another. If I say oh we looking that children are expensive. The answer that follows is...... "So you here talking, how many of you did your mom have, did she not raise you up right, are you not happy you have other siblings to play with and all, please stop being selfish and give the girl a sibling". So the now a days my new and IMPROVED answer is that "we are trusting God". That kills the long talks and lectures. As my Daughter grows up, she has a special love for other kids especially those younger than her. She refers to them as her younger one. As a working mom, I want to be able to afford a certain life style for her, which is one of the reasons when I think of another child I worry. Everyone says God will provide and care for these kids. A times when I think of travelling on holidays and I know I have to pay flight tickets for 2 kids, I and my Pancakes. I just wonder how harder I will have to work to achieve that. Recently I have been thinking a lot but not from pressure of anyone about having another baby..... Whenever I come home, my baby girl still has enough energy to run around and calls on me or her daddy to play with her. Even when we are so tired and weak from the days job she worries me so much with "momma you not listening to me, am I not your friend again? Play with me. Daddy chase me around. Catch me momma. I am running see me. OK your turn momma and daddy run so I catch you." That's a trap. Once you join her to run, she will never let you sit again. That brings me back to the topic of the day. I have been thinking about it, if we have another baby, she will have a play mate and would not feel ignored by her parents and have someone to chase her round. It gets me worried like how can I not have time for my miracle baby I spent years praying for. The reality hit me..... This body wants and needs rest. And as a working mom and a farmer, after the days job, coming home to cook and clean and feed...... All I want to do is collapse on my bed and sleep off and not have my head jumped upon by 5.30am Monday to Sunday by my baby. Do you lot ever wonder how the kids get to sleep and want to sleep some more on weekdays? but not on weekends. They wake up very early and frustrate you from 5 am or 6am Just when you want to sleep in a bit. You hear from me soon if we are expecting or if we are not. What's your take readers, am I alone? I rest my case. off to prepare for my case tomorrow. above all God is the ultimate planner.

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