HUSBANDS LITTLE HELPERS

Hiiiii. Greetings In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Happy new year people. So ok guys recently I and Kemi have been talking a lot about we women being Husbands little helpers, even when we have not been asked to help out by our men. Ok a typical example is this. I get money for monthly shopping and I feel that maybe washing up liquid should be a certain number or, more tea bags, or more diapers, or more this and that, Or I get to the market and find out that I missed out some items on the list and look at them staring at me and I knw its a must get, if not I will be stranded at home when I need whatever the items are the most. Then I decide to chip in my own money to buy those items. Or lets say I was cooking and I run out of cooking oil, or seasoning, I dash out very quickly to the store and buy some, and life goes on as normal yes? Now the question is this, Now that I have started to show that I can cover up those little expenses, those that mean that I carry on like this until I go to my grave? The answer in my mind is in the affirmative . I look at it that what one cannot keep up with, don't even start it in the first place. But o guess this those not apply to we women, our motherly nature always takes over. Except you both talk it out. But to be honest when I speak to Pancakes he says please just sort it out. But the question is from where? Where do I get this money to sort these out? From my pocket money? My hustle? or side business profits? Which excately. Hold up, hold up, before y'all will get all eye ball rolling on me. I understand that we both should share our income or spend or whatever, but its just that back seat chill which later turns into my responsibility of covering up insufficient cash of which very fast life adds so much to quickly buy to my responsibility. And gradually it does not become his responsibility to Carry or cover up those little expenses. Don't get me wrong, ok just like me coming back from work and making dinner, society has made it look like it is my constitutional right and powers as enshrined therein for me to cook, clean and have babies. If pancakes makes dinner I thank him and we eat, I don't relax and make it his responsibility to be my chef. Or expecting him to breastfeed my baby when hungry. I enjoy indulging in them escapee's but I am still aware that this is my role, and I get back to it quickly. Its just part of women bing women whether a working woman or a stay at home mum. We always chip in to make up, but those areas have slowly become our responsibility with us gradually amassing more financial responsibilities. Yetunde once said to me that all these little daily cash we spend to make Up or make dinner or get drinking water all them little things on a daily basis, it amounts to much more when added up for a month. Now,how do we now draw the line? How do we take care of stuff just because we are little helpers, and not allowing this be our new responsibility? I have seen that this has made me not achieve a lot for myself. I keep pushing my needs backward, saying how much I want to help, or make up this and that or how one other person other than me needs it the most, and how I can manage. Do I make sense? Or am I going on and on? Until I come your way again. Adios

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