You deserve a treat too

I bring you greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Husband: Hi honey there is this new restaurant I hear about, my friends say the food is really good, we should try it out. wife: babe we can save that mony and use it to buy dippers or towards our mortgage. husband: sweetie I saw this dress and i felt it will be good on you. wife: don't worry I still have some clothes I think I am good. Husband: I am thinking we should plan a get away, for us to relax. wife: really? that would be good, but we could still push it, so we pay out the kids nursery fees and the baby sitter. I complain a lot that my husband does not do this or that, then I had an Epiphany, I found out that the mum in us, the mother hen that we are, even to our husband's , always take over us. This has made it difficult for us to allow our husband do nice stuff for us. I have spoken to a couple of women and this is the case. its difficult for us to look beyond the debt we owe, things that need attention urgently in the house,a d bills that need immediate attention. I will like to encourage us to allow these husband's spoil us too. we deserve it and don't need to be guilty. the truth is this: they will not ask forever. if they keep getting turned down, they will eventually lock up. I remember my husband taking Me out with out daughter on Sunday for a buffet meal. and I was like huh, we not sure of when we get paid, and we going to squander the little one we have on food that we eat and let out in the toilet. but you no what? I said a silent prayer " Oh Lord take this thoughts away from me and allow me let Pancakes to treat me". abi I dont deserve it? I do.... And to be honest I enjoyed the meal and Mikayla behaved herself at the restaurant. I remember after I had our daughter, we went clothes shopping, we went to so many shops shopping for my husband and child. he saw a cute bag and said I should pick it, I said oh no babe, let me settle ya'all first, you both are my priority. and guess what I was stuck with diaper bag as my hand bag for a whole year. I know its difficult and it just happens, but we need to pray to allow our hearts allow our men treat us and not fill guilty. we work so hard that we deserve this. Gods grace is sufficient for us all. I leave you well, under the canopy of his love for us all.

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