My journey so far as a new mum

Calvary greetings in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. I do trust you all are well? Today I talk about my journey so far as a new mum of a one year old and a wife, also a working mum balancing it out. Having a baby is a big or rather huge responsibility, especially when God blesses you with an angel like Mikayla that is not a sleeping baby. As I always tell people, there are babies then there is "Child of Mine". From the day she came into this world screaming , she continued in that way, and not a good sleeper. Hardly do you come to visit and meet my baby sleeping. For someone that worked in a nursery where I had cared for babies from 3 months to 2 years old, I must say that Mikayla is a unique one. It gets really frustrating when I go to bed, waking up for my usual mid night feedings(not just breastfeeding) my activities include but not limited to, carrying, singing, swaddling, wrapping on my back and rocking to sleep, patting on the bum and back...... I can put her down and she sleeps for 10 minutes and bamm she is up with shinny bright eyes. Now that she is one, I read on baby center that she is suppose to sleep through the night without waking up, but nope! Not my "child of Mine", but I accept it with good faith, as it also makes we wake up and pray more for her and other things as I will definitely be too busy in the day time to pray. Are they happy times? Yes they are a lot. OK, once I left her unattended on her potty, to go get a big chunk of cake from the fridge, I heard her saying mummy mummy mummy, see, see, and she was walking towards me with stretched hand, and I was wondering what is this, behold it was squeezed poo. She gave it to me in my hand. I laughed so much I feel backwards and she came to me and hugged my face with more poo. (lol) or could it be her first words"my shoes"(weird right?) or her first steps. Too precious. I love being a mum, but I will not sugar quote it, it's a tough work. Being a wife is precious, however being a wife and a new mum is strainious. Not pretending about it. The mid night cries that leaves both of you frustrated and getting agitated that one person is getting more sleep that the other and other petty stuff. It's easy to loose your love and affection for one another as a mum, I constantly pray asking God to please help our love not to grow cold. Have I been able to go for a date? No. However the nights the Lord touches Mikayla and she is sleeping long, I get to cuddle on the couch with my Pancakes(oh yeah I call him my pancakes) and laugh or watch a movie or pray together. I am thankful to God that despite it all, laughter has not departed from our home. It's so easy to loose sight and love, but prayer bring it to your mind. I know I have not gotten that date night yet, but little things like taking him lunch at work, calling him on the phone and sounding urgent when he picks up, and I say Boo u are a wonderful daddy, or I love you. Or God bless you for helping me out a lot at home. Definitely no help is appreciated like holding Mikayla for hours(which is hard to achieve) while I sleep in or have a bath soak. However the Bible says his grace is sufficient for me. So all the new mums and other mums, be encouraged. Many a time it makes me pray for single mums that have no loved one and they have a baby. (dear God make their journey easy for them in Jesus name. Amen.) I know, I know..... Sex life. Hmm to be honest yeah, Sex becomes a priced activity to engage in. Keeping her down slowly, tip toeing out of the room(like pink Panter) and in hush hush voice, I am like boo get here its action time, and at the heat of the moment I hear our daughter. And I am like really, pancakes is whispering to me just let her cry, she get back to bed and that never happens. However we have had a lot of success stories. Like me closing off from work and getting home before I go get her from nursery, we get down to business in the quietness and calmness of our home, and when we done, I say... oh the Lord bless him who invented nursery, they knew a child like Mikayla will be born to the world so it was invented. Despite all this, I never cease to thank my husband, pray for him, get him gifts and appreciate him, even though I know he may not be 100% daddy care standard. He is doing a perfect time job. Now being a lawyer, and a mum, and wife. Wow. Talk about burning baby fat forever. The days I need to get to court at 9, haha its like marathon. I get to work tired everyday, come home tired everyday, go to bed and wake up even more exhausted. Do I get to look cute and all work like? No. Initially when I resumed work, the Secretary had to call me and ask why I have let myself just go, I come to work in big clothes that don't fit, still in my maternity slacked jeans and most of the time with one mark of baby cereal on my face or arm or skirt. After that talk. I had to make an effort to look good. I had to swap clothes with my sister so I could have more fitted clothes, had to pay extra for home services for my hair, or make it when I drop Mikayla off at nursery, or take an excuse from work that I be late. I know I cannot get even a comb or lip gloss on my lips, in the mornings . So I pack all in my bag and store in my desk. When I get to at my office desk, I comb my hair, line my eyes and my eyebrows and have lipstick on. Very simple and minimal but takes away the tired look from my face. There are days I walk up to my boss frustrated and I say I want to resign. He say to me I have twin girls and I know it's not easy but you get a hang of it, get back to your desk madam and get my work done. (lol) In all of these I give thanks to God for the privilege to go through all these. I am honored. What are your experience and tips to share? Drop your comments. Have a good evening.

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